Things I’ve Learned Along The Way

Hello-hello, friends.  The Princess Consort here striding mikeside while The Princess spends quality time in the dentist’s chair.  When I last saw her she was muttering under her breath about a crown.  How fitting.   I don’t envy the fair Princess today.

While marking the passing of some great people these past few weeks I got to thinking about what I’ve learned in my life.  We all learn at our own pace and are formed by our experiences.  Here are some of my favorites:

1.  In the Big World not everyone gets a ribbon. Seems pretty simple but some people don’t seem to understand that you have to do more than just show up in life.  You’re not in second grade all your life.  There will be days when you will lose.  Be gracious on those days; learn from the experience and do better next time.

2.  Be a gentleman. I can’t speak to being a gentlewoman but I’m sure there are similarities.  Act and dress intentionally.  If you have any questions about being a gentleman consider spending a little cash and picking up this book when it hits the shelves in a couple of days.



There are any number of excellent guides, including Gentleman’s Quarterly magazine.  Personally, I’ve always enjoyed the rules published each month in Esquire magazine.  The magazine has also put together a compilation book that is well worth reading.  You’ll laugh, cringe and learn.

3.  Treat all people as you’d like to be treated. Hold it a second – isn’t this the Golden Rule?  How often do we snap at someone in a service position?  Or treat them off-handedly?  Anyone who has ever worked in a service or sales position knows exactly what I’m talking about here.  I remember when I was just a young Consort my parents took me to my first “Grown-up” dining experience.  They had reminded me beforehand to be polite to the people who would be bringing us our food and drink.  Mr and Mrs Consort also reminded me to eat and drink everything I was served.  After I drank about five glasses of water they realized the waitperson would fill my water glass and I would drink it down in an effort to be polite.  They gently explained that if I didn’t want any more water I could just say “No, thank you”.  I could say “No” but I had to add “Thank You”.  That lesson stayed with me.  Being polite will take you further and pay more dividends than you might realize.

4.  Money is being printed every single day. You cannot have it all.  If you are money motivated you will eventually become frustrated because enough is never enough.  When I was managing people the largest struggle was with pay scales.   I would hear complaints that “I’m not being paid what I’m worth”.   I would ask the complainer what they decided they were worth and how they came up with that figure.  That would lead to some interesting discussions, often including the classic line “I’d work harder if I were paid more”.  People still ask if I miss managing a large staff.  Gosh, I don’t know.  What do you think?

5.  Celebrate life’s little victories. Every single day things will happen to you, both good and bad.  Shrug off the bad as best you are able.  Hold the good times close in your mind.  You will find that more good is happening to you than bad.  That doesn’t mean you have to become a Pollyanna; this is a tough world in which we live.  What I’m saying is that being a positive person will attract similar people.  They will surround you and support you.  Your setbacks (and there will be plenty) won’t seem quite so monstrous.  Quick example:  The United Way where The Princess and I used to live raised an enormous amount of donations this year despite a 15% unemployment rate and the overall dismal economy.  The donations were overwhelmingly pledging gifts of $20, $10, $5, even $2 a week.  People doing good even though their personal resources were strained.  That positive attitude, that willingness to share, is more prevalent than you might hear.  Life’s little victories add up.

Enough of my introspection.  What lessons have you learned in your life experiences?  Leave a comment and share with us.  After all, we’re friends here.

Now I have to get to the warehouse and pack some boxes.  You’ve been great today and I appreciate your careful attention and willingness to humor the lunatic fringe. The Princess will return tomorrow with news of some great bargains she has found.

As always, I remind you that we have a two-drink minimum today and don’t forget to try the veal.  Take care of your waitperson, they’re working hard for you tonight.  Now relax and enjoy a little musical number by a young guy with a lot of talent… some fellow from New Jersey named Bruce.


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16 responses to “Things I’ve Learned Along The Way

  1. VictoriaM

    Wonderful commentary by the P.C. Appreciate the observations on life. One principle I espouse is that when people do things that make you happy you should tell them. So yes, thank you for the inspiration, I feel quite bucked up. Good stuff!

  2. fab advice and I love your sense of humour and optimism- you and TP really compliment each other well!


  3. But I want all the money. I would take good care of it, promise! Why can’t I have it? *sulking*

  4. OK, WendyB, since you make such a compelling argument you can have all the money. I know I’ll sleep well tonight knowing it’s in your good hands and not the dirt-smeared hands of the politicos.

  5. LPC

    Bruce? Bruce? Bruce? I knew I liked you guys.

  6. a.

    Someone once referred to me as being in the “lunatic fringe” and for once I guess I am happy to be in good company. Thanks 🙂

  7. Very wise, TPC. And I’m always glad to see Bruce get a shout out, particularly in such esteemed company.

  8. I love when you step in and offer the gentleman’s p.o.v, PC. Thanks for a great post full of good advice and words to live by. Please let TP know I’m hosting a fabulous giveaway that I’d love for her to enter when she’s done getting fitted for her crown.

  9. I always enjoy your posts. What a wonderful couple you and TPP make! Thanks so much for the heads up on the book. A must have for my husband.

    Have a great day!

  10. merleskaya

    I am new to you, PC (found you from Preppycrat). You are so right about these 5!

  11. Not everyone gets a ribbon! So agree and wish they would teach kids that in school. It kills the drive in them, the drive to do better. To set goals.

    Ok I’ll get off my soap box LOL!

  12. Landlocked Mermaid

    What a lovely post!! Please tell the Princess that I am thinking of her and hope that she is on the mend. I saw the post on Mrs. Newlywed’s blog about the apron. One that my Friend the Princess gifted to me a few months ago.. I am loving it and recommend it all the time ! xo

  13. Hey, not fair. I want the other half of the money. Why does Wendy get it all? Tell Tilly I will buy all the treats she wants. 😉

  14. Jen

    Loved the list and totally agree with every single item. As one who rarely wins the blue ribbon (except for this past weekend, yeah!!!), being a good sport and supportive of those who are doing well is utterly important. Also, being grateful for the little things goes without saying. Lovely post.
    p.s.- I may need to work on my fashion statement. However, my new pink belt from the Princess looked oh so cute with jeans and my pink Polo sweater the other day!

  15. The Golden Rule is our #1!

    I also subscribe to, if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all!

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